Welcome to the ultimate wedding planning timeline! I know how stressful this phase can be, but it doesn’t need to be so bad. Planning your big day should be fun! So let’s quiet that nagging voice in your head that keeps asking if you’re on track with my condensed, year-out timeline that offers suggestions to brides AND grooms!
I know it’s not fun, but one of the first things you’ll need to tackle is doing the math and crunching some numbers. Before you can start planning anything, you need to figure out who’s paying for what and determine your wedding’s bottom line. From there, you’ll want to break down the budget and discuss your priorities. Would you rather invest more in flowers or food? Do you want a videographer? Are there any other special considerations that will eat up dollars? I think it’s smart to have a detailed spreadsheet from the get-go. When I got married, I used Zola and found their timeline and checklist to be incredibly helpful!
Choosing the venue is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in the wedding planning process. It affects almost everything from the number of guests invited, to the kind of flowers you have on the table. (Not to mention it’s a sizable chunk of your overall budget!) Pick a space that fits your guest count, style, and budget, and choose it early in the planning process. Available dates fill up quickly and far in advance! Pro Tip: Throw out the pros and cons list and trust your intuition. Chances are, how you feel is the right decision here.
This task can be so difficult to figure out! When deciding your head count, consider your budget and venue space. From there, divide up your list and delegate tasks, like if you and your partner are covering the majority of the cost or if parents/family members are contributing. The rule of thumb is that when parents pay, they DO get a say in who is invited, even if you feel that you don’t know the guests super well.
This is an important step to remember, and it’s worth it. I promise! Note that a venue coordinator is not the same as a wedding planner. Your planner will help keep everything running smoothly, even for the pickiest brides. You might have everything under control, but a planner can take tasks off your plate that you shouldn’t be dealing with the week of your wedding. They help mitigate family drama, keep everyone calm, cool, and collected through the process, and make sure nothing falls through the cracks. Basically, they handle the stress so you don’t have to! I highly recommend a planner.
Do you want this event to be black tie? How about black tie optional, formal, or semi-formal? The vibe of the wedding needs to be a mutual decision between both partners. What do you value? What makes the most sense for your venue, space and wedding date? With these elements locked down, all of your future decisions will be much easier to navigate!
Feeding 150+ people in one sitting is no easy task. Start with hiring a catering company you trust, and don’t be afraid to get creative with your menu. Adding fish to your menu will bring the cost up, so if you are on a budget, select chicken/beef and a vegetarian option or a buffet. It can also be fun to select a signature cocktail or appetizers that are favorites to you! It’s your perfect day… it should feel (and taste) like it!
Other than your food tasting, this part might be the most fun! If you haven’t already, 11 months out is the time to gather inspiration, look at color palettes, and create a dream wedding board on Pinterest. If you’re struggling with this part, look at home magazines, or what you seem to gravitate toward on Instagram. You can also take a peek at David’s Bridal or other bridal dress stores for ideas!
These are the people who will make your night fun, and capture all the memories so they last forever. It can feel like every part of planning a wedding is important, but in my biased opinion, I think photography is the most important! At the end of the day, your wedding photos will be what you take forward to look back on. So savor the moments with incredible photographs! Much like your venue, photo and video services tend to book out far in advance, so make sure you don’t put this step off. You’ll want to book your top choice for your already locked-in date! (To learn more about my wedding photography pricing and packages, click here!)
Maybe you know exactly what you want in a wedding dress, or maybe you don’t have a clue… either way, it’s okay! Enjoy this process, because it goes by fast and it’s meant to be fun! I mean, who doesn’t love trying on gowns? Stores and boutiques typically carry one size for trying on, then order your dress in the correct size just for you. After that, if you’re adding any beading, sleeves, etc., or need any alterations or adjustments made, you’ll need to allow time for that process, in addition to shipping time.
It’s a thoughtful gesture to offer a hotel block (and secure a discounted rate) for your guests, especially if the majority of your guests are traveling in for the big day. Reserve about 10 months out to ensure you can get a big enough block!
My personal favorite is Zola. It really provided everything I needed, and was very user-friendly. (It even had an integrated registry!) Use whatever you like the look of, like Minted, WeddingWire, or The Knot, and put all the important details in one place. (That way people can look things up for themselves, or if you start getting questions, you can just point people to your site. It’s SO much faster that way!)
It’s such a great idea to have engagement photos taken, not only for the sake of your save the date card, but to get comfortable in front of the camera before the big day. I offer complimentary engagement sessions with all wedding packages (to learn more, send me a message), and highly recommend the experience. Get familiar with your photographer as they get to know you, then keep these photos for a lifetime of reminiscing.
Nowadays, people like to keep it paperless, which is a great way to get fast responses from your guests. If you’re looking for a more traditional approach, and an opportunity to select customized invitations, now is the time! When else will you order them? Sal Studios is my favorite Denver, Colorado designer (and the one who created my wedding invitations!).
Let everyone officially know when and where you’re tying the knot! If you are going with a destination wedding, it doesn’t hurt to get the save the dates out even sooner. People will want to make their plans and look at their budgets, too!
Involve your better half in this one! Maybe this is their job in the wedding planning process. Take inventory of what you have, what you need, and what you want to have upgraded. Consider your hobbies, wish list items on your honeymoon, your future homes, and so forth to add to your wedding registry.
Communicate the style and look you are hoping for with everyone. If they are able to make a shopping appointment in their local area, this is very helpful! I suggest providing flexibility in style. You want everyone to feel comfortable no matter what!
Much like hiring your other vendors, you want to create a cohesive look with your flowers. To save money on centerpieces, you can go with fake flowers or vary the tables between candles and floral arrangements.
Traditionally, the groom’s family pays for the rehearsal dinner. With that said, every family does it differently! The idea of family-style dinner at your favorite restaurant, or a rooftop keeping it casual is always nice, too. Just make sure the venue knows when you’re coming, how many of you will be there, and how long you’re planning to stay! They’ll need to plan and staff accordingly.
If live ceremony music is your style, consider a vocalist, pair or trio of musicians to make the setting especially unique and personalized to you. This option isn’t high on everyone’s priority list, but it can sure make the day special and memorable! Get on their calendar now so your date is locked in, then start thinking about song selections.
Chairs, linens, drapes… You may think these things are just unnecessary, and it’s certainly important to check with your venue to see if these things are included or not, but the decor and final touches of the wedding day complete the look of the space! If you’re renting any of these items, make sure you’ve got everything covered with logistics arranged.
This one seems obvious, but its sometimes forgotten… you’ll need to hire someone to marry the two of you! Depending on your religious affiliation, you’ll need to talk to the appropriate officiant. If you are not religious, you can go with a friend or family member who fits the role, but now is the time to ask!
Consider the parking situation for guests at your venue. How far away is your hotel block? Will you have an open bar? Do you want to provide transportation for everyone or will you opt for Uber credit? Depending on how many of your guests are local vs. staying at the hotel, you can also consider mini buses or large shuttles. Ultimately, you want to feel like your guests are safe and cared for, so plan this detail accordingly!
Speaking of transportation, how are the two of you going to exit your the event? Do you want to take a stretch limo, specialty car, or hop on the shuttle with your guests to head back to the hotel? Anything goes, but it is something you’ll want to think about!
Decide if you want to take your honeymoon right after the wedding or save it for a few months down the road. Plenty of couples save their honeymoon for later in the year, but whatever you decide to do, just remember how special this trip is. It’s not about where you go, but who you are with. You’ll want to consider budget, timing, travel arrangements and types of activities the two of you agree on.
Step one is to choose the dress attire of the wedding, then decide if you’re going with a tuxedo or a suit. When selecting the actual ensemble, focus on fit and comfort. From walking down the aisle, to possibly standing in the heat (if it’s a warm climate) to wearing this on the dance floor, be sure it’s the right choice all around!
Whether you come from a religious background or not, premarital counseling has worked for years. It’s helpful to have an objective third-party encouraging you to address issues that have yet to come up in your relationship, and give you the tools you’ll need to manage when you encounter the inevitable bumps in the road. They can even provide you with healthy solutions for conflict-resolution so you’re ready for the tough parts of years to come.
By now you’ve decided on the menu and talked with your caterer, and now it’s time to taste what they’ve made up for your special day! If you are unsure about a few items but don’t want to offend, bring your planner along. That’s what they’re here for!
From traditional wedding cakes to cupcakes, donuts and cookies, when it comes to your wedding dessert, anything goes! Don’t worry about pleasing everyone. Pick the dessert that you want and like best. That said, if you have folks with allergies, consider a gluten-free and/or dairy-free option for them as a small side.
Go shopping together and decide on what you both like best! Google search your area for reputable jewelers or go with the same one you used to purchase the engagement ring. Who knows, they may offer you a discount! (Or at least have complimentary styles!)
It’s okay to be picky – you want to feel your best on your wedding day, and makeup and hair stylists know this. Come prepared with inspirational photos and try to articulate what you like and don’t like about the style so they can help you! (Don’t skip this one… You don’t want the first try to be when the cameras are clicking!)
This isn’t a requirement, but it’s a nice gesture to offer favors either at the wedding (for them to take home) or in the hotel room for your out of town guests. It’s a simple way to thank everyone for sharing in your joy! Have a lot of people traveling in? Consider providing some local favorites.
Photo booths have become a reception staple. While not for everyone, it certainly is fun! Check with your DJ/band to see if they have any connections. I suggest starting there, or asking your venue who they like working with best!
You’ve done the hard part picking them out… now just assemble and send them out! Then send out information on any other pre- and post-wedding events (this can also be included in your wedding invitations, if it’s going to all the same people).
Your first fitting should be anywhere between two and three months after ordering, and your second one should be around the 6-week mark.
This is an important one, and an easy one to forget. Be sure you’ve read everything that’s required in a timely fashion! You’ll want to check about what to bring, how much it’ll cost, how long it will take, and how long it will last. Every state has different requirements! Know yours now so you’re not scrambling at the last minute.
Check in with your DJ or band and make sure everything is in order! The music can literally set the tone for the event, and it should reflect your style. Let your team know what you like, any specific requests, what you don’t like, and any songs or styles you want to avoid. Need help? You can always Google “100 best songs for your wedding reception” if you aren’t sure what to choose.
Sometimes your planner can help you out here, and so can your family and bridesmaids. Here’s a quick checklist:
Do you need to assemble gift bags or favors? Or bring snacks to the bridal suite? Don’t take it all on yourself! Ask a trusted friend or family member who would be up for the tasks and let them take these things off your plate. Just make sure they know what’s expected!
Avoid having to track who’s been paid and who hasn’t. Pay everyone in advance, in full, and check on the tipping etiquette if you are planning on doing this on your wedding day. Then there’s nothing left to worry about when the big day arrives!
This is hard to do until you have all your RSVPs returned, but you’ll want to think about the venue floor plan, whether or not you’ll have a head table, who will be sitting at it, and choosing the design. Many wedding websites have a digital planning guide for your seating chart. Once you’ve got a good grasp on that, you can start to create the place cards.
Come with a list of any questions, and bring your planner or parent to bring up anything you may have forgotten.
You made it! Take a deep breath and soak up every moment of what will be an incredible week ahead. Now that all the hard work is complete, here are a few helpful reminders for the wedding week:
We hope this wedding planning timeline has been helpful! As always, if you are uncertain about anything you’ve read or would like to chat more about wedding photography and a timeline that will work for you and your fiancé, be sure to send me a message here.
Must Capture Moments for Your Wedding Shot List
You’re engaged! Are you ready to dive into the wedding planning process? Let’s make it easier on you—at least when it comes to photography. Whether you’re still finding what you like, providing examples for what kinds of shots you’re looking for, or even a photographer looking for some inspiration, my wedding photography checklist is here to help. Already have a photographer with a built-in shot list? You can still let this list be your guide! Capture it all or tone it down to get an idea of how long you’ll need to book the photographer for your big day. (My bookings start at six hours!)
Weddings are always so beautiful, filled with details and personal touches that are passed down for generations or completely your own. There are so many memorable moments! Being prepared to capture the moments, as well as the details, with a wedding photography checklist will make sure that nothing is missed and you’ll be able to look back at everything that went into your day forever.
While some photographers won’t ask for input on the shot list (we’re here so you don’t have to worry about it, after all!), it’s important that you communicate any specific photo requests ahead of time. Are you wearing your great-grandmother’s bracelet? Make sure there’s a photo of that detail! Are there parts of the family or friend groups who are rarely in the same place at the same time? Make sure you capture everyone together for a moment, too. These are things your photographer won’t know unless you tell them! This is your wedding day. At the end of it all, your photos should reflect what matters to you.
So without further ado, here are the watered-down, most important things for your wedding photography checklist:
Capture a timeless shot with your gown near a window. While it may not be a photo you frame, you’ll enjoy looking back at how much you loved your dress, and it will bring back all your memories of picking it out and getting ready that morning.
Candid photos are my absolute favorite! There’s so much time spent and preparation that goes into getting ready for not only the bride, but also her bridesmaids, flower girl, moms, etc. Capture getting ready together and those special moments of calm before the day gets going. While it may be tough to narrow down candid specifics for a wedding photography checklist, I recommend getting help situating your dress, train or veil, final touch-ups on hair and makeup, and the calm and happy moments in between.
You may think to yourself, why should I have my fiancé’s watch or shoes photographed? Aren’t these small, unimportant things? Yes, they’re small, but they help paint a big beautiful picture of your day. Maybe your grandparent or someone special in your family gave you a handkerchief or piece of jewelry that’s sentimental or has a special story. Maybe years from now you find yourself unable to remember what your earrings looked like, or which accessories you paired with each piece. Let us help you remember the details. (Plus, when you create a wedding photo book, these pictures can leave a little bit of breathing room between the momentous shots!)
Save the date and invitation suites play an important role in the big day. Save a set of wedding stationary to have a photo taken in the setting for which they were made.
This isn’t for everyone, but if you choose to write your vows, exchange letters, gifts, etc. between the bride and groom, add those gestures to your wedding photography checklist. Those can be very touching moments! See the look on each others faces, and look back on those expressions together for years to come.
Generally speaking, the groomsmen take a lot less time getting ready. A few photos of them laughing, playing games or sharing a toast together is all you need. They may not be the sentimental type, but they’ll be glad to have these keepsakes of their closest pals.
A quiet moment between the groom and his best man or father, or the bride with her maid of honor or mom, are the moments that are more significant on a day as special as this. Make sure you remember those times, the words said and the wisdom passed down. A photo can be all you need to remember a moment and the impact it had.
When everyone’s almost ready, make sure you get a photo with your parents – either mom helping to secure the zipper on your dress, or fixing your necklace, or capture your father’s first look at you and the heartfelt hug that’s sure to follow.
Listen to me: DO A FIRST LOOK! It’s the absolute best. They’re some of the most touching reactions, and so many brides and grooms say it was their favorite moment of the day. It’s a time just for the two of you to soak it ALL in… this moment, this special time has finally come. (And the genuine reaction and anticipation of the arrival is absolutely priceless!)
Fresh makeup, no wrinkles in the suit, no flyaway hairs. This is the time to capture those bridal portraits individually and together. If you chooses to wait until after the ceremony to do photos, shoot for right after the wedding concludes.
Take a moment before people are seated (or when they get up) to get photos of the entire space of where where you got married. The exterior of the venue, the backdrop or where the light is hitting in just the right way is all very meaningful.
Try to capture a wide-angle photo of your guests beginning to arrive and find their seats. Hugs and genuine smiles can portray excitement and fun at the occasion!
During the procession, plenty of people might walk down the aisle, but none are more important than the bride and those who “give her away.” Well, the bride and…
The groom’s reaction as his bride comes down the aisle is emotional, touching and usually one of the best photos captured of the ceremony. (This is the time when you may want to really think about having a second photographer so they can divide and conquer, one capturing the bride and the other the groom!)
The people standing at the alter are thought of as family, and likely your closest friends. Standing to support you on your day carries weight! The smiles, tears and happiness on their faces as they watch your entrance and marriage are images you’ll be glad to look back on.
A key moment in the ceremony and day is the exchange of vows and rings. It’s a staple moment in any wedding album! It’s the stuff of fairy tales, and this one is all yours.
If there’s a moment more classic than the ring and the vows, it’s the kiss! The first kiss at the ceremony’s end is just one of those magical moments. In it, there’s joy, relief and excitement all wrapped up into one. Don’t miss it! This one’s a definite must on your wedding photography checklist.
There’s never a shortage of smiles and cheers during this moment. Capture the hands up in the air, the second kiss that may happen, and the looks between bride and groom now that everything’s official!
Since cocktail hour is often used for wedding party for portraits, it may go unseen or unphotographed. I highly recommend a second photographer to add this to your shot list! It’s a fun and happy atmosphere where people are catching up, having a blast and are generally very receptive to having their photo taken. When you look back on your big day, these shots give you a glance at the moments that happened while you were away.
Weddings mark the merging of families, so be sure to gather parents, siblings, and immediate (and extended!) family members from both sides of the aisle. Having everyone in one place (and all dressed up!) won’t happen often in your lifetime, so take the extra time to capture these special moments. It helps to think ahead here to make good use of everyone’s time, so take a moment to come up with the different combinations of family members you’d like to photograph before the big day!
The big family portraits are fun, but make sure to capture those smaller family photos, too. Communicate different combinations of people you hope to capture with your photographer (bride with mom, bride with dad, groom with brothers, etc.). You never know when you’ll want to use that photo with the family member for their birthday or a Father’s Day shout out!
Making people wait around and forcing them into group poses used to make me nervous, but here’s the thing: Those people signed up to be in the bridal party, and part of that includes having patience for these photos! A few of everyone, some of the girls, some of the guys, bride with each bridesmaid, groom with each groomsmen and there you have it! You can be done with these in 20-30 minutes, or less depending on the size of your wedding party. Enjoy the break from all the festivities. You’re going to want these photos later on!
Maybe you’ve already taken bridal portraits during the first look, but it’s really nice to capture a few more of the bride and groom between the ceremony and reception, or right before sunset. There is something so sacred about the peace and tranquility of these moments during the big celebration. It often makes for some of the most poignant photos of the day, when the bride and groom are just more relaxed. I’m telling you, these are the ones that end up in frames!
Don’t forget to capture photos signing the marriage license; that document represents the union, which is why it’s included in this checklist! It’s officially official. That’s a big deal!
It’s such a process to decide on reception details. You might think nobody cares or even pays attention, but it’s your wedding day and it should matter to you. Make a point to get a few photos of the space at large, and smaller, detailed items like centerpieces, flowers, cutlery, and the guestbook. It’ll all go so fast that you won’t have time to really pay attention to all the beautiful details, and you’ll love looking at it afterward! You put a lot of time and care into planning these details. Make sure you capture them so they can live on forever!
This is a great pause in the reception, and a great time for your guests to get to know you, your new spouse and your family. In addition to still photos, if you don’t have a videographer, be sure someone captures any speeches or toasts on video, even if it’s just on their phone. You’ll love listening back down the road to remember all the kind words.
Capture yourself at the head table during the reception during those above-mentioned speeches and toasts. The facial expressions are usually priceless!
Whether it’s a slow sway or a choreographed performance, it’s a moment just for the bride and groom. This moment, and this photo, are quintessential on the wedding photography checklist.
Some of the most touching moments are captured on the dance floor. One simple photo can capture a precious family relationship, and having tangible proof of that will mean so much to you both.
Traditions like a bouquet toss, chair dances (or horah), cake cutting, or fun games can say a lot about what you two find important. Remember the fun, not just the formality, of your big day!
Get shots of the joy, happiness and love of your friends and family together on the dance floor. They’re all there to celebrate you! Everyone looks happy when the DJ or band is playing them on, and you’ll love having these joy-filled moments on film.
The final exit from the reception is one of the more artistic opportunities for wedding photographers. A tunnel with sparklers, bubbles or confetti is a popular way to end the night (and a perfect way to end your wedding book!). You’ll be busy heading out to your new life together, but a photo of this moment will always bring you back to where it all began.